This is a description of what it feels like to reach out to others when you have secure attachment to them. Many of my clients cannot imagine what this would feel like.
When I feel vulnerable, it feels
natural to turn to my attachment figures(s). When I turn to them, I can
fairly quickly find comfort and my distress decreases. When I’m not around
the people I’m attached to, I don’t have to worry that they will forget about
me, leave me, or get angry at me. This allows me to enjoy other aspects of my
life and learning about things that interest me. If my attachment figure does
abandon, reject, or betray me, I have the ability to confront them and let
them go if they are unhealthy.
I feel okay when I am alone and okay when I
am with my attachment figure(s).
